The Inner World of Men (Part 2): Expertise, Obsession, Virginity Complex, etc.
(vi) Men who like to act like experts: Another tendency of men is that even if they only know one thing, they will pretend to know ten. An even more serious problem is "pretending to know what they don't." Clearly, they want to satisfy their sense of superiority, and another intention is to emphasize that they are experts in order to gain everyone's respect. To achieve this goal, "criticism" becomes a trick that they can readily use. Their comments are usually praising seven parts and criticizing three. For example: "That matter wasn't handled ideally, which is regrettable. If it were me..." This tone makes people feel that he is observing a problem from a higher level, making him seem different. Men especially crave the favor of the woman they love. Therefore, when he earnestly performs the "pretending to be an expert" act in front of you, you can judge that he likes you. 90% of men who consider themselves remarkable will perform a "showing off their good manners" behavior before confessing their love-this is an inevitable process in the psychology of love.
(VII) For men easily obsessed with certain hobbies: When it comes to entertainment, men are always easily captivated. For example, playing mahjong, chess, etc. Why are men so enthusiastic about certain hobbies? First, because most men are creatures of short attention spans; as long as they think something is extremely new, they can easily become addicted. Second, because men particularly enjoy entertainment. A deeper analysis reveals that this is mostly due to the monotony of daily life. Because these hobbies involve competition, they must be fully focused to determine the winner. When men play chess, they often argue until their faces turn red, sometimes even coming to blows. In short, men's emotional structure is both simple and immature; they get truly angry over trivial matters-that's just how men are.
(viii) Men who only demand purity from their partners: Most men, despite having had many girlfriends, still yearn for a future life partner to be a true virgin, even though they themselves are not pure. This insatiable male mentality is true throughout history. A survey of 1277 single men yielded statistics that are worth pondering.
Those who are no longer virgins account for 46%;
17% of people are determined to remain virgins until marriage.
Those who intend to let it develop naturally account for 42%.
This reveals the state of men's sexual attitudes.
Society has entered an era of gender equality and equal opportunities, so why does this one thing remain unchanged? Frankly, it's because men are too selfish and self-centered. Japanese psychologists once conducted a survey of single men across Japan on their views on virginity. The results are as follows:
"No virgins allowed" – 26% of respondents said.
Ideally, she should be a virgin-38% of the respondents preferred.
These two factors alone account for over 60%. Another psychological reason why men demand purity from women is because they themselves are "impure," thus yearning for their partners to be virgins. There's no greater contradiction. A famous French writer once said, "Even a prodigal son demands his partner be a virgin; this is one of the eternal praises love offers to purity." Does such a strong desire for a virgin indicate a lack of confidence in their ability to handle women? This is the third psychological factor behind demanding virginity. Frankly, defining purity (what constitutes purity) is highly problematic.
(ix) Pretending to be a man who isn't jealous: It's commonly believed that women are more prone to jealousy than men, but this isn't entirely true. In reality, men are often more jealous than women. It's just that women's jealousy is more outwardly expressed, while men's is often buried deep inside. Why is this? It's related to social customs. It's believed that if a man nags about being jealous, he'll be considered weak. Therefore, when men can't suppress their jealousy, they have to find a roundabout way to express it. Young women should be aware of this.
(10) Men who like to pry into a woman's past: Where does this obsessive habit of dwelling on a woman's past come from? When both parties are deeply in love, women are not particularly interested in exploring a man's past, so why do men always insist on getting to the bottom of things? First, it indicates that men's jealousy is more intense than women's. Second, men have an extremely strong possessive desire. Third, men believe that since she is their girlfriend, they naturally have the right to investigate her past. This mentality exists deep within the hearts of men. This almost perverse mentality can sometimes be very serious. The protagonist described by the Italian symbolist poet D'Annunzio in his masterpiece "The Triumph of Death" is like this. In order to possess the woman permanently, he forces her to commit suicide with him.
A man's desperate search for your past is simply a ploy to hear you say, "This is my first experience-I never imagined loving someone from the bottom of my heart could be so intoxicating. I'm so happy..." Nothing is more captivating and enchanting to a man than these words. He will undoubtedly believe you. Remember, men are most prone to believing what they want to believe. Use this tactic, and you've got him firmly in your grasp.
(XI) How do men view women? Some men in the dating stage think, "I both love her and hate her." They often feel "deeply disappointed, frustrated, and even angry" with women, but at the same time, they cherish the relationship, believing that this intimacy is far superior to any friendship. They like women with the following qualities: traditional thinking, and the unique warmth, kindness, gentleness, elegance, and tenderness of women, especially the ability to be considerate of others. The most common complaints men have about women are: disorganization, emotionality, flirtatiousness, princess-like arrogance, hysteria, viciousness, and disgust for shrewish tomboys and combative, flamboyant women. Most men complain that women are too dependent and hope that they can be more independent.
(XII) How Men View Love and Marriage: Some disillusioned individuals believe love is merely a relationship with a woman. However, most men see love as a chain, binding them and often making them emotionally vulnerable, losing their reason and strength. Regarding marriage, regardless of gender, age, or wealth, they unanimously agree that it is an inevitable path in life. They all hope to get married and maintain the relationship; in fact, most divorced men hope to remarry. Most married men are satisfied with their married life. They cherish the warmth, security, stability, and shared experiences that marriage brings. Many consider their wives their best friends and feel that they can only truly be "themselves" when they return home. Most men believe that love transcends sexual relationships, encompassing many more aspects of life. As the enjoyment of shared life grows, the stimulation of sex may decrease, but this does not affect their feelings for their wives.
(XIII) How do men view themselves? Men are proud to be born into this world, and at the same time, they have a strong sense of responsibility. They have a strong desire and demand for social respect, and if this demand develops in a positive direction, it forms the uniquely male personality of "becoming stronger after setbacks." They believe that men must be strong, confident, independent, and emotionally self-controlled, able to restrain themselves when hurt or in pain, even at the cost of it. It is precisely because of these characteristics that men strengthen their social status, and they cherish this status. However, some men feel that strength, confidence, and ambition are a burden, feeling that being an ambitious person is not easy, and therefore they are often in a state of contradiction and repression, wanting to achieve new things but also worrying about their inadequacy.
The thirteen points mentioned above may not fully reveal the inner world of men. Only men themselves can truly understand their inner world.