Men's view of sex as a way to express love stems from their psychological emphasis on sexual ability.
[Men see sex as a way to express love] When a man is rejected by his woman for sex, he will think that the woman no longer loves him.
For men, sex is a measure of love.
Men view sex as a way to express love. They often believe that a relationship only truly begins when sex is involved.
Many men view sex as a way to get closer to women, or even a way to bring them pleasure.
Women are often intimidated by a man's intense sexual desire at the beginning of a relationship, rather than attracted by his charm.
The relationship loses its chance to develop further until the woman feels comfortable with sex or feels that the man is a suitable lover.
Although women are important to men, they live in a mysterious world that men cannot and do not want to understand-a world full of menstruation, children, rich emotions, and even tears.
Women who enjoy sex are often not beautiful.
Although they don't have glamorous figures, they love their bodies.
Exercise is essential for them, not for weight loss, but for shaping their bodies.
They know how to use body language to excite themselves and their partners.
A man who is obsessed with women's emotional world is worse than a man who is obsessed with his own emotional world.
[Men value sexual ability] The vast majority of men in the world hope to have superhuman sexual ability. This is a widespread phenomenon, which is one of the reasons why advertisements for "kidney tonics" and "aphrodisiacs" are everywhere in China today.
So why do men value their sexual ability so much?
In ancient times, only the strongest among our ancestors had the right to mate. This was based on the biological principle of "survival of the fittest," which also ensured that the best DNA was passed down to future generations.
And since the blood flowing in our veins is that of former kings, it is not surprising that men have this subconscious tendency.
In addition, men grow up in a competitive environment from a young age, and the visible and invisible social role requirements such as "being better than others" and "standing out from the crowd" weigh on every man.
Having superhuman sexual ability can satisfy a man's desire for conquest and greatly enhance his self-confidence and self-esteem. This is a "role" requirement that is difficult to escape.
Today, men no longer fight each other for mating rights, but competition among men has intensified. The survival of the fittest is more cunning and cruel than in ancient times.
How proud one would be to find evidence that one is “better than others”!
[Looking forward to an alternative lifestyle] Why would someone have sexual thoughts about women other than their wife after getting married? First, the first reason is that they don't get along well with their wife, so they pay attention to and care about other women. This is probably just a case of being fickle.
The second scenario is that the man has a mother complex; he doesn't see his wife as a woman, but rather as a substitute for his mother.
Therefore, he would subjectively assume that just as his mother would allow him to have affairs, his wife should also allow him to have affairs.
Perhaps men with Oedipus complexes feel guilty about having a relationship with their surrogate mother's wife, which is why they might have relationships with other women.
The third type of fickle man believes there must be women better than his wife, so he's constantly searching for women and falling in love with each one he meets. Men with this pessimistic view, that "marriage is the grave of love," secretly envy and hope that there are alternative lifestyles.
[Men's infidelity] Some young and middle-aged men seem to focus all their energy on philandering and infidelity. They even shirk all their responsibilities to themselves, their families, and society, while having a strong sense of preemption when it comes to "sexual exploitation".
Their wives could no longer tolerate them, so they came to them for help, or forced the men to come for treatment.
These men are capable of seriously harming others or themselves and are in dire need of outside help.
This is not about those who occasionally engage in transgressions under normal tension and pressure; there is a fundamental difference between those who use sex occasionally and those who habitually use it as a way to avoid responsibility.
Some people sacrifice their precious marital relationships because they are addicted to repeated affairs; some spend so much time and energy chasing sexual transgressions that they neglect their duties; some may jeopardize or lose their jobs as a result; and some, still in school, are forced to drop out due to moral depravity.
It can be said that these people have significant psychological problems to varying degrees and must undergo detailed psychological and psychiatric examinations.
Their psychological characteristics are: ① They are perfectionists who set unrealistic standards for themselves; ② They lack the means to strengthen their self-esteem and are particularly sensitive to the loss of self-esteem; ③ They have extremely radical views on the life they live, so even a small setback can cause them great pain; ④ When emotionally distressed, they tend to be unrestrained rather than alleviate their psychological turmoil by calmly examining themselves; ⑤ They may exhibit a very real and serious childhood problem.
Because many of them lack any awareness of the seriousness of their dangerous and destructive behavior, they will only make the situation worse.
For example, some men initially felt they had a problem, but because they didn't receive timely help, they always believed they could "get by."
People with mental health issues should receive more help and treatment.
[Sexual frigidity] Adolescent boys do indeed have more sexual fantasies than women. They often confuse emotional needs with sexual needs, and sometimes they just want to satisfy their emotional needs through sex.
However, as people get older, work pressure and family burdens can diminish the strong sexual desires that existed during adolescence.
Of course, there are a few men whose libido is always quite strong, so it cannot be generalized.
The survey found that among couples with disharmonious sex lives, the husband is often the one who experiences sexual frigidity.
As men enter middle and old age, sometimes all they need is a hug, a light kiss, or an intimate whisper.
Sexual intercourse in its purest sense is not very attractive to married men.
When a man consistently or repeatedly shows no interest in sex, lacks the subjective desire to engage in sexual activity (including sexual dreams and fantasies), lacks awareness of participating in sexual activity, and does not feel frustrated even when deprived of sexual activity, we call it "sexual frigidity."
There are several psychological and physiological factors that can cause this state in men: ① Lack of sexual knowledge.
② Unhealthy lifestyle and sexual practices: Irregular work and rest schedules, poor living conditions, lack of novelty in sexual life, insufficient communication about sexual needs and feelings, lack of common interests and mutual trust between husband and wife, and men often feel depressed and anxious because they cannot satisfy their wives, all of which can lead to low libido in men.
③ Age factor: Men's sexual peak usually occurs before the age of 30, after which it begins to decline.
Their partners may have just overcome their shyness about sex and have developed a stronger need for it.
④ Endocrine system diseases.
⑤ Sexual dysfunction.
In addition, systemic diseases such as tumors, chronic diseases, neurological disorders, malnutrition, and excessive fatigue can all cause low libido.
Overnutrition and obesity can also cause men to lose their sex drive.
Certain medications, such as some antihypertensive drugs, sedatives, or psychotropic drugs, can also cause low libido. In addition, alcoholism, smoking, and drug abuse are also among the causes of low libido.
In fact, just like women, when a man takes the initiative during sex, it can arouse greater sexual excitement in both partners.