How to handle arguments between spouses and dealing with an unreasonable wife.
> 169. **What to do when couples argue**
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It's inevitable for couples to bicker and argue. So, what should you do in these situations?
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(1) Tolerance and restraint: If one party gets angry or quarrels, the other party must...
> Be tolerant and restrained; never confront each other head-on and refuse to yield, otherwise things will only get worse.
The more rigid the relationship becomes, the more likely it is to break down. In this situation, the one who is making concessions needs to understand the other person.
When you feel this way, think more about the other person's good points and also think about the future, so as to understand them.
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(2) Do not hit or curse: It is easy to become emotionally impulsive when arguing, so be sure to...
> One should "use words, not fists," and avoid insults, revealing shortcomings, or bringing up old grievances.
> Bring them all out. Cursing and hitting not only fail to resolve conflicts, but actually exacerbate them.
The consequences of such a transformation are unimaginable.
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(3) The conflict should be quelled as soon as possible: Husbands and wives shouldn't hold grudges overnight; the family is a shared community, and no one should hold a grudge.
> We can't live without anyone. Therefore, arguments should be resolved as quickly as possible. If a wave of conflict doesn't subside...
> Just when things seemed to be calm, another wave arose, even escalating the situation and enlisting the help of relatives and friends.
Not only will it not help resolve the conflict, but it may also trigger new conflicts or exacerbate existing ones.
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(4) Do not belittle your partner's family: The worst thing a couple can do when arguing is to talk to each other.
Denigrating the other party's family and members can shift the focus of conflict, affecting both sides.
The divide between the two sides will deepen, potentially pitting members of both families against each other and creating an even worse situation.
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> 170. What to do when you encounter an unreasonable wife?
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In daily life, some wives are habitually shrewish and often quarrel with others.
This has caused unrest among the neighbors. What should one do with a wife like this?
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(1) If a wife is shrewish and unreasonable, the husband should not beat or scold her in front of others.
You need to take him home, and after his wife calms down, talk to her calmly and rationally.
> Offer appropriate criticism when necessary to help her realize that maintaining good relationships with neighbors and colleagues is important in life.
One aspect that cannot be ignored is finding articles on how to properly handle interpersonal relationships.
She read it and learned from it.
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(2) After a conflict arises between the wife and her family, the husband should not be swayed by the wife's words.
The focus shifted to analyzing the causes of the conflict and the wife's shortcomings and mistakes.
> Later, I taught my wife to be willing to compromise and make concessions in handling family conflicts, as long as she doesn't...
If it's a matter of principle, you should advise your wife not to argue over trivial matters. For example...
If a wife has a conflict with her in-laws, or acts unreasonably towards them, the husband might consider...
He tries to smooth things over between his parents and wife, both advising and criticizing her, and then pulls her along.
The wife apologized to her parents-in-law. This not only strengthened the marital relationship but also promoted family harmony.
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(3) When a wife is prone to tantrums or unreasonable behavior, the husband should not...
> Be accommodating, but don't back down; distinguish right from wrong; support what is right and reject what is wrong.
When offering criticism, one must be assertive and not drown out one's wife's shortcomings and mistakes.
> Otherwise, excessive displays of affection might encourage your wife's bad habits.
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> 171. How to treat a wife who has become a mother.
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The birth of a child brings joy to both husband and wife, and many families become even closer as a result.
> It's sweet. However, many couples find their previously harmonious relationship disrupted by the arrival of a new life.
However, their relationship gradually became eroded by contradictions and conflicts. So, how should a husband act?
What about how to treat a wife who has become a mother?
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(1) Understanding your wife: Understanding is essential between husband and wife. After the wife gives birth, you need to understand her husband's feelings.
Children generally receive far more emotional investment than their husbands, and raising children requires significantly more time and effort.
> They have more time and energy. Even if the wife isn't as attentive to her husband as before, this
> It's because the wife focuses her main energy on the children, and the husband should understand that.
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(2) Being considerate of one's wife: After becoming a mother, one's wife has a lot of housework and is very tired.
Husbands should be more considerate of their wives, and their love and affection for them should also be...
As always. Sometimes my wife nags or complains because she's busy and tired, but I don't mind it.
If a wife is weak after childbirth and needs rest and nourishment, the husband should actively...
I tried my best to find ways to make sure my wife ate better, and I shared more of the housework so that she could get some rest.
He should get plenty of rest and try to help his wife eliminate her worries and keep her in a good mood.
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(3) Restrain yourself: When there are more housework and the children are crying, the husband should take the initiative to do so.
You shouldn't get upset just because your wife is too busy taking care of the children to do other housework.
> He flew into a rage. Especially in situations like this, the husband needs to control himself and remain emotionally stable.
> Be enthusiastic and optimistic. A husband should make more sacrifices for the happiness and health of his wife and children.
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Some people refer to the period after a new family has a child as the "couple's feeling."
This is a dangerous period for relationships, and there's truth to that. As a husband, it's important to provide timely psychological support.
Adapt to changes in family life, work together with your wife to manage household chores, and take good care of the children.
Only by ensuring the child's well-being can they successfully navigate this dangerous period. As the child grows older, the burden of household chores increases.
With the relief of stress, love life enters a new and happier phase, and the family becomes more harmonious and stable.
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> 172. How to deal with a wife who is constantly nagging.
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Some wives, upon seeing their husbands after get off work, begin to chatter incessantly and without any rhyme or reason.
She recounted her experiences at work or on the street with such earnestness and patience.
She described it so vividly that it was difficult to interrupt her. Facing the rambling...
What should you do with a wife who never stops nagging? There are three possible approaches to this situation: 1.
It means listening patiently, which requires a little "sacrifice," but it shows your friendliness.
She's happy, that's for sure. Secondly, regarding her inexplicable words...
> You can't listen to her, you find her annoying, and she's also disappointed by your attitude. Thirdly, you're indifferent.
She listened, saying her own thing and thinking her own thoughts, completely clueless about the questions she asked.
Knowing you're just going through the motions, she'll likely stop talking or complain that you don't care about her.
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When your wife nags you incessantly, it means she has high expectations for you.
I hope to gain your understanding, support, and trust. If you then act rudely...
A violent attitude, which is annoying, only makes the wife feel even more annoyed, which is a poor strategy. Because she doesn't...
When they can find new outlets for their frustrations, they compensate by being critical or throwing tantrums.
When a person is in a bad mood, their performance is indeed difficult to be satisfactory.
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She remained indifferent, seemingly listening but not really, so even though she had finished speaking,
New unpleasantness arises almost simultaneously, requiring a new outlet, which is true both in terms of time and...
From both a practical and emotional perspective, it's not worth it.
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Only by patiently listening could his wife vent her frustrations and feel relieved.
At this point, offering a few words of comfort is the best course of action. If you notice your wife's words contain...
If there are any biased points, feel free to offer some pointers. As a result, not only did it improve the relationship between husband and wife,
This also helps the wife approach work the next day with a healthy mindset, and the husband can also...
> Focus intently on your work.